A goal I have with my clients is to help them get to a place where they can say:
”Nothing I accept about myself can be used against me to diminish me.” — Audre Lorde
Because usually the person diminishing us isn’t others, but ourselves. If we can own our story, we go from being driven by our ego to being pulled by a calling. It’s a simple but profound transformation that affects every part of our creative journey.
I’ve found the path to getting there is nuanced and unique to each person. Much of it has to do with unlearning rather than learning anything new or profound.
We have to unlearn the framing we put around our lives in; unlearn the reasons for doing what we are doing.
Shame accuses us, with, “Who do you think you are?” But our soul wonders, “What is life expecting of me, and how can I answer its call?”
Creating a space for that still, small voice to be heard and nurtured is how we own our story. In that space, shame suffocates and our soul breathes anew.